Before you read this, make sure you have read the first one. This article is part two.
Ladies, get your ammo back. Power up! Stop entertaining guys that aren’t worthy of you. Stop letting these men treat you any kind of way. Rather than asking why he treats you this way, my question to you is… why are you allowing it? He is treating you how you allow him to. We get what we tolerate. If you are not happy with how you’re being treated, take a look within yourself to see where you are not loving yourself. If you loved and valued yourself, you wouldn’t let someone treat you badly. This is not about being perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist. However, you do have to recognize that you set the standard. All too well we want to talk about how the man is disrespectful and not being a man. Okay. But what about the fact that you’re putting up with it? What does that say about you? Stop wasting your time on fools and f*ck boys that don’t deserve you. Put yourself first and take care of yourself so you attract better. Desperation is dangerous. Having low standards or no standards attracts low quality men. It’s time to take your power back. Here are a few tips:
Get Clear. When you envision your ideal man, what qualities does he have? How does he make you feel? You have to get clear on what you want. Write it down on a piece of paper. Once you finish writing it out, then look at all of those qualities you want him to have. Think about the type of woman a man like that would want. Do you embody those qualities? You must also become that which you seek. For example, it is not fair to ask for a financially responsible man when you run your credit cards up on designer clothes each month you can’t afford. Let’s be real. If the man is good with his money, he’s going to want a woman who is good with her money. No one is coming into a relationship perfect but we need to be honest about what we’re bringing to the table. Relationships are a two-way street. Mature adult relationships require mature adult behavior.
Say No! As women, we’re always trying to be everything to everyone. No wonder we’re burned out and stressed out and not putting ourselves first. We have been conditioned to believe that we are nurturers and caretakers (which we are) yet no one ever told us to take care of ourselves. It is difficult for us to say ‘No’. Trying to be a good person, we want to help out. But you shouldn’t put your needs on the back burner making you last to receive all the time or putting you in a bad position. If you cannot help someone, that doesn’t make you a bad person. Hell, if you don’t want to help, you don’t have to. You have bills and responsibilities like everyone else. The help is not always financial. It could be someone asking you to babysit. Trying to be a good friend, you always Yes when you really want to say No. Say No out of love for yourself and your well-being. And don’t feel guilty! If someone gets upset because you tell them No, I would question their intentions. Are they really your friend or were they using you? If they’re upset that you finally put your foot down so you can take care of you, I think you already know the answer to the question. My challenge to you is to for one week say NO to everything you truly want to say No to but normally say Yes to just to be nice. Watch things change.
Woman Up! Stop playing victim. Stop blaming other people for your mistakes. Take everything that I’ve mentioned in this article and the first article and start making changes. Shift your mindset. Victim to victor. You have more power than you think. Stop giving your power away. You are the one that says ‘Yes’ to a date. You are the one that allows sex to happen. You are the one that allows a man unworthy of you to be in your space. You allow that. Don’t be so desperate that you just settle for anything. Invest in yourself. Grow. Become the She-Ra that you have always been that has just been lying dormant. Know your value. Know your worth. Don’t settle. You deserve more. You are worthy. You are deserving of God’s best. Know and believe that. Enough with the ‘good woman’ BS already. Reclaim your motherf*cking power. Once you claim your power in one area of your life, it will impact every other area of your life. Woman up!
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